Why does it feel like an interview?
You put a lot of thought into the outfit. You want to look your best. You mentally rehearse the situation so you look cool and prepared. You want your best qualities to shine and your weaknesses to take a back seat. You want to appear smart and interesting. It’s very important to you that this event goes well.
I’ve just described the way a person might feel before a job interview AND a first date. Both occasions call for a …

He had to be blond. He had to have blue eyes. He had to be tall and well-built. He had to have a dominant personality. It would have been a definite plus if he were a musician. Blue jeans had to hug his ass just right. These things are what a 16 year-old me would have said was my ideal man. As you can see, the criteria is embarrassingly shallow. I have an excuse though, I was 16! for you 21+ …

I met the first love of my life when I was 17. This person treated me like I was a queen. I was lavished with kind words, gentle actions, and the kind of romance every girl dreams of as her “prince charming.” There was just one problem, this “prince” was a man, and I knew deep down that I was a lesbian. I could not have ever asked for a better person to be with. Never before had someone treated me with such respect and love.
I tried to put the …

You’ve been on a blind date. You’ve let a friend or even a *gasp* relative fix you up. You’ve even used dating sites. That means you’ve dated strangers. You’ve put yourself in a position where you are going to be spending time with someone completely new to your life. I’m making it sound bad, aren’t I? Honestly, though. How often does it occur to you that you are choosing to date strangers when you have perfectly good, attractive friends you can be dating?
You …

I’m going to start this by saying that if someone makes you feel uncomfortable on a date, you should probably leave. On this particular date, I DID feel uncomfortable but I couldn’t feel threatened by an Oompa Loompa.
I had just gotten out of a bad relationship and wasn’t really into the dating scene, but when a guy I’ll call “Craig” asked me out as a friend, I really didn’t see the harm in any of it. I had been single for about three months and was sick of …