After doing some casual clicking on this site, I was very excited to see that in their Help/FAQ section they actually list the pricing of the Gold Membership.  ALL matchmaking sites should make their prices available BEFORE a person becomes a member.

Signing up for the site will take you a few minutes.  It’s not really tedious, though.  The requirements are only meant to enrich your experience as a user and to ensure that your matches will be what you’re looking for.

Even though I was giddy from the fact that this site lists it’s prices to non-members, I have to admit that this site is a teeny bit pricey.  Of course, where you money goes is entirely up to you.  Pricing for the Gold Membership breaks down as follows:

1 Month- $29.95

3 Months- $59.95

6 Months- $95.95

12 Months- $143.95

You can earn a free Gold Membership for small amounts of time by working with the site on networking, stopping scammers, blogging, inviting friends, and sharing tips.  While this is a neat perk, it makes me question the competence of the administrators.  I mean, this place charges a pretty penny for a Gold Membership but they will give you small tastes of Gold for basically doing their jobs.  It’s odd.

The bright sit to this is that you are able to do basic member searches and receive emails and instant messages from other members.  It’s still a really restrictive membership, but you can still at least search.

One really neat feature this this site offer is a place for age gap blogs.  If you’re interested in reading or starting an age gap blog, this would be a good place to look.

In the end, I’m kind of lukewarm about this site.  It’s not exciting.  It does, however, offer a niche experience that some might find worth the money.  It’s your choice, but choose wisely.  You can do better.

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I sincerely hope that the mentality towards Senior dating has changed from when my grandmother was alive.  When she hit 50 as a single woman, she closed up shop and assumed that her days as a partner to another human being were over.  She spent her time reading cheesy romance novels to fill that part of her and it made me so sad for her.  If only she had lived long enough to see the rise of the internet matchmaking site she might have had a different perspective on her status as a woman and a viable adult.

Besides talks of Viagra, there is surprisingly little on the internet in the way of the Senior dating scene.  Seniors seem to be the forgotten demographic…or they are expected to prey on the younger generations.  While the May-December relationship is not something we look down upon, Seniors should have better options where dating within their age group is concerned.

Here at Datester, we have 12 dating sites geared specifically towards Senior daters in our dating directory.  To find them, click on the Dating Directory tab at the top of the page, go to the Lifestyle/Fetish Dating page, and scroll down until you see the Senior Dating category.

For some additional reading regarding Senior Dating, feel free to check out the following pages!

SuddenlySenior.com is a funny page that is written specifically for the young at heart among you Seniors.  In this article, a hilarious view of the Senior dating scene is profiled.  It’s funny and smart.

“Although folks like Tony Bennett and Cher prove that we’ve all got a comeback in us, at our age every date severely tests that theory. Frequently, codger-daters turn to local dating services or the Internet in search of Mr. or Ms. Right.“

LoveToKnow.com also provides an article for the Senior Datesters.  This article is encouraging and insightful.  It offers great suggestions as well as acknowledges what Senior daters go through.

“It’s true, you’re really only as old as you feel, and if you feel like you still have a lot to offer someone romantically, then by all means, get out there and dive into the seniors dating scene. You’ll be glad you did.”

eZineArticles.com provides an article that is poorly written but contains some fantastic dating ideas for Senior Datesters.  If you haven’t been in the dating scene for a while and are worried about what a date consists of these days, check out this article.  You’ll find it very helpful.

“Mature people dating is centred on companionship the feeling of somebody being with you by your side, enjoying your company as much as you enjoy theirs. It is about talking to one another about days gone by, appreciating each other.”

Please don’t feel that your age is a hindrance to your love life.  If you are lonely and longing for companionship or even love, it is out there for you at your fingertips.  A dating experience as a mature and vibrant adult has the potential to be so much more fulfilling than it was in the teenage and early adult years.  Don’t deprive yourself of all of life’s experiences.  Get out there.

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Believe it or not, everybody is feeling a little friskier in the Springtime.  It’s a great time to get out there.  Are you unsure about how to get out there?  Are you confused about where you should start?  Check out the 4 Steps to Springtime Romance over at Dating Tips Online.  They offer 4 very great ideas to help you get your springtime dating scene into full gear!

Also, did you know that you’re sexier in the Spring?  How can you not want to get out there and flirt when you know that you actually look hotter than usual?  Check out this encouraging article over at MSN!

“So, how to use your seasonal sexiness to your advantage? First, take a big boost of confidence from the fact that everyone around you is feeling more open, excitable and body-conscious now. That cutie in the supermarket probably is checking you out, it’s not your imagination, so go ahead — smile back! Or say something clever to the cute stranger on the bus or the next yoga mat.”  MSN Lifestyle

Take advantage of the beautiful weather and the fact that everybody is feeling so much more energized!  Be it through online flirting or flashing a confident smile at someone on the street, don’t let this opportunity to find someone pass you by.  Go on, get out there and have some fun!

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I have noticed as I get older that more and more people generally agree with my sentiment that Valentine’s Day is basically an over-commercialized farce.  Yeah, yeah, one could argue that Christmas would also fall under that category..but I would have to disagree.  There are some harsh truths about Valentine’s Day that make this “holiday” completely silly.

Grown women squeal when they receive a teddy bear on this day and I am of the opinion that after the age of 16, you are too old to get excited over stuffed animals.  Crappy chocolate and heartless Hallmark cards are another silly gift.  Have you ever actually attempted to eat some of those chocolates?  YUCK!  Lastly, the red roses.  When I see a bouquet of red roses I think of funerals.  I’m not entirely sure why I get so macabre about it, but red roses are terribly cliche.  All of the above gifts are cliche….and cheap.  So what else do you get a lady?  Jewelry.

Guys, if you get your special lady a nice sparkly piece of jewelry, you KNOW that she’s going to do that one thing for you..you know…the one thing that she only does for you on your birthday…yeah.  Diamonds and gold basically put you in a position where your partner basically has to do that one special thing.  A nice dinner and a spa day?  Get ready for a great night.  But you know what?  Your lack of imagination is going to get stale after a while.  If your partner is desperately looking forward for Valentine’s Day so that you can show them how much you care, then you must be a really cruddy lover.  One or two days a year to make your lover feel special is just crappy.

I have a suggestion to save this day.  Let’s drop all of the corny stuff.  No longer shall we have to look at stores crammed with red and pink Valentine’s crap.  No more red roses and cheap chocolate.  No more stupid stuffed animals holding stuffed hearts.  No more sweating over if she wants the princess cut diamond or the marquis cut.  Let’s bring to light what this holiday is about under the surface.  Sex.

Take your lady to the lingerie shop and encourage her to model for you.  Sneak into the changing room for a feel and rub.  Go together, hand-in-hand, to a sex shop.  Pick out some toys to make sure that the night will be interesting.  Get an adult movie for some inspiration.  You might also want to go ahead and get that gallon jug of peach-flavored lube…it’s going to be a long night.

Do all of this together.  Giggle and enjoy each other.  Don’t be embarrassed.  The only reason to be embarrassed is if you were doing all of this to pleasure yourself alone in a dark room, but you’ve got a person there with you.  A person who is willing to experience this with you because they care for you and trust you.  If that doesn’t say love, then I don’t know what does.  It’s not a bunch of flowers, that’s for sure.

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In our “gimme gimme NOW” society, online dating can match you with several potential lovers in one simple click.  You can cover quite a lot of territory by using the internet and its matchmaking sites as tools.  In one evening one can become a member of a matchmaking site, become acquainted with at least one match, and then use the internet to check the credentials of said match.  That’s a hell of a lot more than you can accomplish by sitting in some bar in your “sexy dress.”

Women, I’m addressing you in particular!  On matchmaking sites, men outnumber women.  Is it because men are complacent and want to meet matches while sitting on the couch in their underwear?  Is it because women are more comfortable talking the ears off of their dates in person?  I won’t assume to know, but I really think you ladies need to embrace the online matchmaking site.  Not all of them are gritty, sleazy places to have inappropriate conversations.  If you are looking for inappropriate conversations and sexually charged content, there are lots of places like that, however!  There are many sites that offer different features and tools to help you get matched with a person who best suits your wants and needs.

Any sexual orientation, hobby, lifestyle, ethnicity and social class can be indulged equally on the internet by a matchmaking site.  Don’t assume that online dating is unsafe.  If you are clear-headed and cautious, you will be fine.  Take the same precautions you would take in the old fashioned matchmaking scene.  Don’t let fear keep you from something as productive and hot as the online dating scene.

Honestly, the thought of relying on family, friends, the local bar or the grocery store to find a date sounds idiotic…but that’s how people used to do it.  It’s an antiquated technique and needs to be retired as the sole means of matchmaking.  It’s not like an entire love affair happens only in cyberspace.  You DO eventually meet the matches who seem worthy (after at least Googling them, of course).  There’s no valid excuse for avoiding online dating.  Visit our directory and find a site that suits you!

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What can be considered an aphrodisiac anyway? Different cultures around the world vary greatly on what makes a man virile and a woman…well..easy. Actually, most of these things center around helping the man be a sexual He-Man while women typically don’t apply. In our Western culture, however, we do concern ourselves with making both genders horny. Even here, depending on who you ask, what constitutes as an aphrodisiac varies. Oysters, chocolate, alcohol, Barry White. While we will concern ourselves with ingestible aphrodisiacs right now, the power of Barry White should never be forgotten.

If you are confident in your sexual expertise as well as you attraction to your partner, there’s really no need to get sloppy stupid drunk for this occasion. Alcohol can certainly help relax you, but be moderate. You may also want to avoid red wine and sweet liqueurs. Red wine stains teeth and the liqueurs will give you bad breath.

Oysters are a classic go-to. Some people, however, find the thought of sucking something the consistency of a loogie out of a shell horrifying. Personally, I adore raw oysters and have done my fair share of sucking and slurping this noble mollusk. I can’t honestly say that they have ever put me in a sexual fervor. They don’t exactly get the juices going, so I wouldn’t rely on oysters as a way of getting in the mood.

Chocolate is another classic. Honestly, I think it’s an excuse made up by women to eat more chocolate. It can be served in a “sexy” way, but in the end it’s still dessert. I wouldn’t put the outcome of such an evening on something like chocolate covered strawberries….even though they are SOOOOOOOO good!

In the end, aphrodisiacs might be more of a mental boost rather than a physical one. Playful flirting during the date, touching and any other acts to build the anticipation will have you both panting more than a plate of oysters will. That doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t take the evening’s climactic event into consideration when choosing your dinner. Food that would give you bad breath, make you bloated, or give you gas should be avoided. Keep it clean and light. Don’t worry about being hungry later, if the sex is great you can always order in after.

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“Sex drive: A physical craving that begins in adolescence and ends at marriage.” -Robert Byrne

“Sex is the most fun you can have without smiling.” -Unknown

“I’ve tried several varieties of sex. The conventional position makes me claustrophobic and the others give me a stiff neck or lockjaw.” -Tallulah Bankhead (1903-1968)

“A woman occasionally is quite a serviceable substitute for masturbation.” -Karl Kraus (1874-1936)

“Sex is nobody’s business except the three people involved.” -Unknown

“All this fuss about sleeping together. For physical pleasure I’d sooner go to my dentist any day.” -Evelyn Waugh (1903-1966)

“Love is a grave mental disease.” -Plato (427?-348? B.C.)

“A man can be happy with any woman as long as he does not love her.” -Oscar Wilde (1854-1900)

“Love will find a lay.” -Robert Byrne

“Marriage is not a word but a sentence.” -Unknown

“Marriage is a great institution, but I’m not ready for an institution.” -Mae West (1893-1980)

“If I ever marry it will be on a sudden impulse, as a man shoots himself.” -H.L. Mencken (1880-1956)

“A man is as young as the woman he feels.” -Variously Ascribed

“Many a man owes his success to his first wife and his second wife to his success.” -Jim Backus (1913-1989)

“It can be great fun to have an affair with a bitch.” -Louis Auchincloss

“Masturbation! The amazing availability of it!” -James Joyce (1882-1941)

“Love is not the dying moan of a distant violin-it’s the triumphant twang of a bedspring.” -S.J. Perelman (1904-1979)

“Sex is dirty only when it’s done right.” -Woody Allen

“Give a man a free hand and he’ll run it all over you.” -Mae West (1893-1980)

“The perfect lover is one who turns into a pizza at 1:00a.m.” -Charles Pierce

“It’s been so long since I made love I can’t even remember who gets tied up.” -Joan Rivers

“When a girl marries she exchanges the attentions of many for the inattention of one.” -Helen Rowland (1876-1950)

“Of all the beasts of land or sea, the wildest is woman.” -Menander (342?-291? B.C.)

“A woman talks to one man, looks at a second, and thinks of a third.” -Bhartrihari, c. 625

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Believe it or not, the custom of having the obligation of kissing when caught under the mistletoe came from Scandinavia. It is the plant of peace, and the story goes that if enemies met by chance in the forest where there was mistletoe in the canopy overhead, they would lay down their arms and maintain a truce until the next day. Not sure if this applies to dating, as I’m not sure I want to fight the next day.

Mistletoe also has pagan rituals attached to it, one of them being that the fruit’s content (viscin) is very similar or suggestive to human semen. Go figure, unless you’re using it to get pregnant.

I like the Romanian definition the best, in which Mistletoe is considered a source of good fortune. If I ever wound up with a beautiful date under the mistletoe, then good fortune had been bestowed upon me. This definition seems to be the best fit, along with the tradition to keep it off the floor and leave it hanging until the next Christmas eve to ward off house fires and lightening strikes. Actually, in my experience, the house should have caught ablaze after those sizzling kissing sessions under the mistletoe.

Having mistletoe around during the dating season also brings a spark of good cheer, a sense of excitement and a rush of hormones. Nothing better. If you remember yourself as an American kid on the edge of puberty, you’ll delight in the memories of your lions stirring at the chance to get that cute guy or gal under the mistletoe to get your chance.

So go out right now and get some mistletoe. You never know, you might have good fortune this year in dating.

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My parents divorced when I was 10 years old because my father was caught cheating with another woman. After my father left, a lot of people started coming to my mother and telling her about all of these other affairs my father had been having over the years of their marriage. My father never wore a wedding ring because he said that it was uncomfortable, but as it turned out, he used it as a tool for dating. That’s right, he DATED these women who had no idea he had a wife or kids. He was taking them out and treating them to gifts and refused to spend money for his children to get school clothes. I resent my father very deeply for the way he pushed us aside and made us feel as unwanted as he did. “But S.C., ” you may be asking. “If you think your dad is a giant douchebag for cheating, then why do you sympathize with cheaters?” That’s a super question for those of you awake enough to ask.

Well there are a lot of things about my upbringing that make me very weary of being a hypocrite. Everybody can be a hypocrite from time to time, but I’m talking gigantic-butthole-judgemental-”I’m so much better than you are”-hypocrite. I’m related to A LOT of those and I always kind of hated them. I have always tried really hard to make myself see both sides of a story and not automatically think the worst of a person because I’ve seen it done by people I love in VERY unfair manners. I’ve got a great example of people being judgemental when they have no flipping clue. My husband and I. Yup. You see, I’m a bit of a hard ass and I can tend to be controlling. I’m not a super sweet person on the surface and I can rub some more traditional people the wrong way because I refuse to take even the slightest submissive role in my life. My husband is a very meek and likable guy. He never speaks out and he never has any conflicts unless someone else starts it. A lot of people, (most of my family and his family included) feel sorry for my husband because they see me as a nag who controls him. That’s completely not true. He’s an adult and makes his own decisions. The point I’m trying to make is that nobody knows the inner workings of a relationship except for the two people directly involved. It would be very easy for me to look at the relationships of the people around me and make simple judgements, but I try very hard not to do that. Same thing with cheaters. I want to see both sides before I start lighting my torch for the witch-hunt.

I once knew a man who had been married to his wife for 25 years. They had 3 grown kids and on the outside, he and his wife seemed to have a very comfortable relationship. A week before their actual 25th anniversary, he left his wife for another woman. The easy thing to do was to judge him as a terrible terrible man who was just a dirty scag. However, his wife had been keeping herself busy with extracurricular activities and hardly ever made time for him. Not an excuse to cheat, right? How about if this had been going on for almost their whole marriage? A woman came along, a woman his same age and they clicked. He should have left his wife before cheating if his marriage was that bad, but I cannot bring myself to believe he was a villain. He was human and he was weak. It happens to all of us.

Where I grew up, cheating was something you heard about all the time. It seemed like everybody cheated. The “other woman” was always a topic of conversation in the hen house. Sometimes I KNEW the “other woman” being talked about. No, I was never a member of some skanky slut sorority, but for someone to go with a taken guy was not an odd thing in my inner circle. I did it twice. I was not a predator seeking these guys out. One guy talked me into it and the other guy had been my friend since we were 5 years old and he wanted someone to talk to. Both surprised me. My best friend did it A LOT. It was a self esteem thing for her. She was heavy-set and she used sex as a way to make herself feel good about herself and there were a lot of guys in relationships all too willing to take advantage of her situation. Were we right? No, and we weren’t any better off for it. I have no defenses for my friend, but for myself, I never set out to get a guy who was already with someone. I liked the perks of not actually having to be in a relationship, but I wasn’t trying to hurt anybody. What else? HI FOLKS! I WAS 16 YEARS OLD! I wasn’t breaking up any future marriages. I was young and having a carefree puberty.

I just have to make myself question motive before I start pointing my finger. I’ve been cheated on once and I got over it really quickly. It wasn’t very traumatic because we were only kind of serious. The worst part was that she was young. Like ILLEGAL young. I bounced back really quickly. Perhaps I’m so sympathetic because I’ve never really been on the receiving end. But I know one thing, if my husband cheated on me with a stranger, it would be HIS fault. If he cheated on me with someone I knew, I’d go Jerry Springer on them, but with a stranger, he’s the one who would be held accountable. I’ve also got crappy self esteem and I would want him to tell me what I did to make him go to someone else. What did I do to make him wander? I just really don’t see a point in finding out the “other woman” and confronting her, especially if she’s a stranger. She doesn’t know me and doesn’t owe me anything. I wouldn’t want to take her out to dinner or anything, but I wouldn’t want to confront her. Admittedly, I’d hate what she did, but she herself would still just be a stranger and really just a symptom of something wrong with my relationship. I’m not idealistic enough to believe that women could ever share any sort of comradery like that where there is enough respect for the gender to not go after a taken man. Look at all these stupid dating shows like “The Bachelor” and “Rock of Love.” Ok, I know that these women are not necessarily the top of the barrel when it comes to classy chicks, but they fight and fight over these total schlubs.

Deep down, I’m just a pessimist. I wouldn’t call myself a realist because my first reaction is to think bad things and I have to make myself try to understand. “The other woman” is what it is. It’s not a new phenomena. There have been mistresses for as long as monogamy has been around…so forever! But should we automatically put a scarlet letter on these women and make them the town jezebel? I don’t think so. I think there should be an attempt to try to remember that some (SOME! Not all, some of these women really are terrible) of these women are weak and vulnerable and they use sex for the wrong reasons and are really confused. Now I’ll leave it to S. McDowell to tell her story and she can relay why she thinks Nathaniel Hawthorne needs to be studied by all wronged women. And she’s right.

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They Love You, But Not Your Partner

Alright, the dating game is over for now. You’ve got a good thing going with this person. You’re in love and you want to include this person in every aspect of your life. Hold on to your pants, baby. It’s time to introduce your love to your family.

What? You’re thinking there’s nothing to worry about? You’re thinking that there’s no way that your family is going to feel anything but admiration for this person? For your sake, and for the sake of your relationship, I hope you’re right. Nothing can sour a great relationship quicker than family disapproval. It’s smarter to err on the side of caution and assume your family just might act like a bunch of uncivilized asses and make the person you love feel like total trash. You don’t want that, do you? Then take my advice because I’m speaking from experience.

Before putting your partner into a potentially horrible position, make it clearly known to your family that this person means a lot to you and that they make you very happy. Perhaps your folks have good hearts and can see past whatever imaginary faults and see that you’re happy. However, assume the worst and be ready. Badly behaved family members are YOUR responsibility. Don’t make your partner feel that they have to put up with their crap or that you feel helpless to speak up. In a relationship, how your family treats your partner is more your business than your partner’s. Is your mom rude to her every time you bring her around? Does your dad talk down to your man? Do they bad talk your love to you behind their back? TAKE CARE OF IT.

There’s no need to make big embarrassing scenes. Make it a quiet and personal conversation between you and the folks. Let them know that you’re horrified that they are acting that way. Let them know that they have the option to be nice and see the two of you often, or they can be ignorant and rude and only see you sometimes. Let me put it to you this way, this relationship might lead to marriage. That marriage might lead to a very happy life for you. However, the fact that you never put your family in line will always be a problem and a sore spot in your happy marriage. Your partner will resent you for making them feel second-rate for never taking up for them. The love of your life will be stressed and out of their mind whenever your family comes to visit because of the fear of your family being rude and you not saying anything. The most important point? Odds are that your parents will die long before you. After they’re gone, you’re going to be stuck with someone who doesn’t fully trust you because in all the years they stood by you, you never once opened your mealy mouth to make your parents behave themselves.

What if the misbehaving family member is a sibling? Put it straight and tell them to suck it up or you’re going to go old school ass-kicker on them. Luckily, for most of us however, the siblings can be great allies in the war between love and parents. Look to your siblings for help and support. Odds are, they’ve been in the same position and will be glad to help you so that you won’t have to suffer.

If you’re one of those people who have never had a problem like this with your parents, then not only are you super lucky, but I hate you. Be watchful, still. You never know when someone you bring home just rubs them the wrong way and you will be forced to have a little chat with them about their behavior. You can’t make your family like everyone, but you can make them behave like they were raised in polite society. It’s completely unnecessary for your darling to suffer at the hands of people who love you.

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